Stop Apologizing for Your Child's Behavior. Do this Instead
Toddlers misbehave: at home, in public, at school.
They are small humans exploring the world and testing to see who will hold boundaries with love, consistency and compassion, regardless of where they are.
As parents, the urge to apologize for their behaviors is strong. But when you consider that they are supposed to be doing this, that it’s a developmentally appropriate way to discover the social norms and ‘rules’ of the world, it changes things.
From this perspective, it’s easier to sit confidently inside supportive self talk.
I do not need to apologize to friends, family or strangers for my children’s behavior.
I’m responsible to my child, to support their early learning.
I’m responsible to my child, to hold my boundaries with love, consistency and compassion.
You are their model. If you apologize for their choices and behaviors they absorb your ‘sorry’ as an identity marker.
I am bad.
Vs
I made a bad choice.
Learn more in Episode 153 about how to support your child to make good choices while detaching from what others think about your parenting strategies
Cara Tyrrell, M.Ed is mom to three girls, a Vermont based Early Childhood Educator, Collaborative Parenting Coach, and the founder of Core4Parenting. She is the passionate mastermind behind the Collaborative Parenting Methodology™, a birth-to-five, soul and science based framework that empowers toddler parents and educators to turn tantrums into teachable moments. Through keynotes, teacher training, and her top-ranking podcast, Transforming the Toddler Years, she’s teaching the 5 Executive Functioning Skills kids need to navigate our ever-changing world.
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