Marriage and Motherhood

Motherhood isn’t your identity. Neither is being a wife. They are relationships. And before them, there was you.

You worked hard for years to grow into who you are, to own your sense of self, and step into confidence, clarity, and create a vision for who you wanted to be in this world.

Your journey of self evolution led you to your true identity. 

And then, you chose to enter into the relationship of partner and mother, when you felt strong enough and ready to add layers to your identity.

Relationships are souls coming together to create something new.

And it’s because of this that they often trick us into thinking that our new label is our new identity, and this slippery slope can quickly, easily and invisibly strip us of -self. 

I’ve been thinking this lately, as I’m officially an empty nester.  It is a whole new world without my children around

to focus on

to engage with

to support

to inspire 

to negotiate with

to empower

We spent 20 years preparing them for independence, to be ready to thrive in real the world. 

And now they are in it.

Without them around. It's just us. And we’re quickly realizing, we’re not the same us. I grew and evolved through the journey of raising kids, and so did he, but both of us are acutely aware that we lost a little of our identity, both individually and as a couple.

We are working to reset the relationship. To recommit and redefine what that means. 

Wherever you are on this journey. Now is the time to start. Whether you have tinies or teenagers, now is the time to start prioritizing yourself and your relationship separate from your parenting. 

And that’s why I’m honored to have Michelle Purta from the Marriage and Motherhood podcast join us to share her wisdom for designing your relationship with intention.

Cara Tyrrell, M.Ed is mom to three girls, a Vermont based Early Childhood Educator, Collaborative Parenting Coach, and the founder of Core4Parenting. She is the passionate mastermind behind the Collaborative Parenting Methodology™, a birth-to-five, soul and science based framework that empowers toddler parents and educators  to turn tantrums into teachable moments. Through keynotes, teacher training, and her top-ranking podcast, Transforming the Toddler Years, she’s teaching the 5 Executive Functioning Skills kids need to navigate our ever-changing world.